– Marcel Proust
“Two men were traveling together when a bear suddenly met them on their path. One of them climbed quickly up into a tree and concealed himself in the branches. The other, seeing that he must be attacked, fell flat on the ground. When the bear came up and felt him with his snout and smelt him all over, the man held his breath and feigned the appearance of death as much as he could. The bear soon left him for it is said that a bear will not touch a dead body. When the bear was gone the other traveler descended from the tree and inquired of his friend what it was the bear had whispered in his ear.
‘He gave me this advice,’ his companion replied. ‘Never travel with a friend who deserts you at the approach of danger.’”
Now, I’ve never been approached by a bear, but I have been in the company of “friends” who at the sight of conflict left my side to protect their own interests. I have also been on the receiving end of great empathy and mercy shown by some truly great friends.
Recently, our family was faced with a situation we could not wrap our minds around. Frankly, we were kind of embarrassed to ask anyone for help, because we weren’t sure what to ask for or what we even needed. We were so caught up by everything we weren’t able to process any of it.
But, even in the mist of confusion, we were surrounded by great friends. We had some strong leaders come beside us; some family members, some church leaders, some long time friends, and even some acquaintances who knew our situation and reached out to help. Almost to the person they would ask, “What do you need? How can I help?” Our reply was always the same, “I don’t know”. And then, each one would say, “We’ll figure it out, together.”
It is amazing to have friends. A support network who can help you figure it out, together.
Sometimes in business and in life we don’t always know what we need. We know we are facing hard times and struggles, but we may not actually know how to communicate our hardship with others. It’s okay. We don’t always have to have all the answers. We just need a little time, a lot of compassion for one another, and a friend or two who are willing to help us figure it out, together.
We have a great community. I have heard time and time again, story after story about people in our community helping each other out. Not only in times of major disasters like tornados or fires or something truly devastating to the masses, but individual and personal times of hardship; financial crisis, family crisis, business issues, and others.
We all have struggles we face. We all have experiences we can share to help others. I hope you will take some time to be a friend to someone who needs it. Take time to listen. Take time to hurt with them. And then, take time to work out a solution, together.
I know if you do, our community will be stronger, our businesses will grow stronger, and our friendships will be bonded tighter, together.
I'm looking forward to your success!
- The story above was taken from Aesop’s Fables.
* This article was originally printed in the Sunday, September 21, 2014 issue of The Chronicle's "Planting Seeds" column.